I wasn’t so nuts before I had children. I think something happened in my brain when I had a baby and realized I was losing control of most everything… so I held on to the only thing I could – my neat environment. But – you can see where this is going – I had three children.
And did you know? Children are messy little things. It’s true. But mess is necessary. Healthy children must mix food coloring and vinegar and stir in some baking soda. They must fashion their own rocks out of Daddy’s leftover cement. Healthy children ought to smash (with bats and hammers) all the leftover pumpkins from Mommy’s fall decorating. Healthy children should crack the eggs when they bake. Yes, they need to help bake. Healthy children should find out if they can jump across Daddy’s new pond (so far, no one’s made it, so, um, lots of wet clothes). Healthy children should make fairy houses out of mud. Okay, I know your kids are doing other things and they’re fine. I just have to tell my neurotic self every day when my kids are around that “healthy children should ________ fill in the blank with whatever is happening.”
I have prayed significantly about my issues and have actually had quite a lot of victory. I have relinquished control in many areas of my family life. It’s actually to the point now where I see mud in the sink in the bathroom (the half bath – you know, the bathroom in the house that most people try hard to keep the cleanest because company may drop in anytime) and I feel happy knowing that my kids did something outside in the dirt. I still cringe when I see mud and leaves and sand on our white (oh, why white?) kitchen floor, but I’m getting better. I have visible dust on picture frames and cobwebs in corners and I don’t feel an overwhelming desire to remove them. Maybe I’m getting lazy or tired (grad school and all) but I can guarantee a relaxed (I chose this word over “messy”) house is much better for my kids than a clean and tidy one maintained by a crazy mom.
So, when I saw this arts and crafts session happening the other night, my heart swelled with admiration for my cute kids and with satisfaction at myself that I did not try to organize their fun and keep things tidy. (Okay, they did have to work together Saturday morning to clean this room, but learning to clean up is part of a healthy childhood too!)
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